A very simple recent learning: almost nothing important that ever happens to you happens because you engineer it. I found that destiny has no beeper; it always seems to lean trenchcoated out of an alley with some sort of 'psst' that you usually can't even hear because you're in such a rush to or from something important you've tried to engineer. Turns out, destiny is usually just around the corner. Waiting like a thief to steal away your plans, and replace them with its own grand design.